{"id":1191,"date":"2008-12-05T06:23:33","date_gmt":"2008-12-05T11:23:33","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.bytebot.net\/blog\/?p=1191"},"modified":"2008-12-05T06:23:33","modified_gmt":"2008-12-05T11:23:33","slug":"just-friends","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/www.bytebot.net\/blog\/archives\/2008\/12\/05\/just-friends","title":{"rendered":"Just Friends"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>xkcd hits the nail in the wall with the <a href=\"http:\/\/xkcd.com\/513\/\">friends<\/a> strip.<br \/>\n<center><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/imgs.xkcd.com\/comics\/friends.png\" data-recalc-dims=\"1\"\/><\/center><\/p>\n<p>Being afraid to ask, is <i>silly<\/i>. If there&#8217;s ever advice I will impart to those that will listen, it should be that you should ask. Before its too late. The longer you sink into the &#8220;friends zone&#8221;, the more you&#8217;ll feel you have to lose&#8230; the more you&#8217;ll fear rejection&#8230; the more you&#8217;ll fear the good thing <i>ending<\/i>.<\/p>\n<p>The best advice is: &#8220;I could ask you out, and move on with my life if you said no&#8221;. Listen to xkcd! You cannot lose what you never had (no matter how good it feels in your head &#8211; its just your rabid imagination).<\/p>\n<p>Life threw me that lemon before, and I&#8217;ve learned from it. That&#8217;s why I can safely dole out advice. It always seems clearer in retrospect. <\/p>\n<p>Of course, life however, remains interesting. Because sometimes hard and fast rules like this, just don&#8217;t work. There are grey areas. But the fear (&#8220;I am going to date this jerk&#8230; But he doesn&#8217;t respect you&#8221;) always remains.<\/p>\n<p>Who knows? 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