{"id":1191,"date":"2008-12-05T06:23:33","date_gmt":"2008-12-05T11:23:33","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.bytebot.net\/blog\/?p=1191"},"modified":"2008-12-05T06:23:33","modified_gmt":"2008-12-05T11:23:33","slug":"just-friends","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.bytebot.net\/blog\/archives\/2008\/12\/05\/just-friends","title":{"rendered":"Just Friends"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>xkcd hits the nail in the wall with the <a href=\"http:\/\/xkcd.com\/513\/\">friends<\/a> strip.<br \/>\n<center><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/imgs.xkcd.com\/comics\/friends.png\"\/><\/center><\/p>\n<p>Being afraid to ask, is <i>silly<\/i>. If there&#8217;s ever advice I will impart to those that will listen, it should be that you should ask. Before its too late. The longer you sink into the &#8220;friends zone&#8221;, the more you&#8217;ll feel you have to lose&#8230; the more you&#8217;ll fear rejection&#8230; the more you&#8217;ll fear the good thing <i>ending<\/i>.<\/p>\n<p>The best advice is: &#8220;I could ask you out, and move on with my life if you said no&#8221;. Listen to xkcd! You cannot lose what you never had (no matter how good it feels in your head &#8211; its just your rabid imagination).<\/p>\n<p>Life threw me that lemon before, and I&#8217;ve learned from it. That&#8217;s why I can safely dole out advice. It always seems clearer in retrospect. <\/p>\n<p>Of course, life however, remains interesting. Because sometimes hard and fast rules like this, just don&#8217;t work. There are grey areas. But the fear (&#8220;I am going to date this jerk&#8230; But he doesn&#8217;t respect you&#8221;) always remains.<\/p>\n<p>Who knows? In time, I might be doling out more advice, as I take on this roller-coaster ride called life.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>xkcd hits the nail in the wall with the friends strip. Being afraid to ask, is silly. If there&#8217;s ever advice I will impart to those that will listen, it should be that you should ask. Before its too late. The longer you sink into the &#8220;friends zone&#8221;, the more you&#8217;ll feel you have to [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_feature_clip_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":false,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2},"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-1191","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-general"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/p4vJD-jd","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack-related-posts":[],"amp_enabled":true,"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.bytebot.net\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1191","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.bytebot.net\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.bytebot.net\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.bytebot.net\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.bytebot.net\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1191"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/www.bytebot.net\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1191\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1192,"href":"https:\/\/www.bytebot.net\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1191\/revisions\/1192"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.bytebot.net\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1191"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.bytebot.net\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1191"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.bytebot.net\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1191"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}