{"id":3410,"date":"2018-01-01T17:12:07","date_gmt":"2018-01-01T09:12:07","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.bytebot.net\/blog\/?p=3410"},"modified":"2018-01-01T17:13:54","modified_gmt":"2018-01-01T09:13:54","slug":"linda-papadopoulos-on-the-james-altucher-show","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.bytebot.net\/blog\/archives\/2018\/01\/01\/linda-papadopoulos-on-the-james-altucher-show","title":{"rendered":"Linda Papadopoulos on the James Altucher show"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>I don&#8217;t listen to every episode of the James Altucher podcast (to be fair, I don&#8217;t listen to every episode of <em>any<\/em> podcast; I skip liberally, preferring to spend quality time with audiobooks from <a href=\"\"https:\/\/www.amazon.com\/Audible-Free-Trial-Digital-Membership\/dp\/B00NB86OYE\/?ref_=assoc_tag_ph_1485906643682&amp;_encoding=UTF8&amp;camp=1789&amp;creative=9325&amp;linkCode=pf4&amp;tag=colincharles-20&amp;linkId=9743905d62ed05c53b7725d51c17ba32\">Audible<\/a>). Anyway, I quite enjoyed <a href=\"https:\/\/jamesaltucher.com\/2017\/12\/linda-papadopoulos\/\">Ep. 296 \u2014 Linda Papadopoulos: Validation: Why It\u2019s Dangerous&#8230;<\/a>. I listened for thoughts on her book <a href=\"http:\/\/amzn.to\/2CpOk4L\">Unfollow: Living Life on Your Own Terms<\/a>, but stayed for <a href=\"http:\/\/amzn.to\/2DGPvtC\">What Men Say, What Women Hear<\/a>. <\/p>\n<p>Now that the book is on my Kindle, a few notes from the podcast:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>In a relationship, if you argue for contempt, it would be highly likely that it leads to an end. <\/li>\n<li>What is contempt? Having a lack of respect, disregard for the other party, belittling the other party, and so on.<\/li>\n<li>Arguing is fine, if you argue to grow<\/li>\n<li>If you&#8217;re in the above bucket, restructure the way you&#8217;re communicating to have a better relationship.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>James Altucher also said that men like to solve problems, and <a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/drlinda_p\">Linda Papadopoulos<a><\/a> replies that generally women just want to air their problems, not come up with solutions. Maybe we are truly wired differently?<\/a><\/p>\n<p>I listen to podcasts when I can&#8217;t otherwise read (i.e. when driving a car, walking thru an airport, etc.), and have to admit that I occasionally take rough notes in a <a href=\"http:\/\/amzn.to\/2DHJf54\">Field Notes notebook<\/a> (I got a  subscription). Seems &#8220;safer&#8221; than using your mobile phone and driving, eh?<\/p>\n<p>Upon reaching my laptop, I decided to research a little more on <strong>contempt<\/strong>. <a href=\"https:\/\/www.psychologytoday.com\/blog\/resolution-not-conflict\/201303\/how-contempt-destroys-relationships\">How Contempt Destroys Relationships<\/a> is definitely a good read, because it simplifies things a lot &#8211; a mix of emotions: disgust &amp; anger. Listen to understand. Focus on positivity: appreciation, gratitude, affection, agreement, interest and smiles. <strong>&#8220;Dump the contempt. Listen well. And pump up the positivity!&#8221;<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Another interesting link that popped up? <a href=\"https:\/\/ggia.berkeley.edu\/practice\/avoiding_the_four_horsemen_in_relationships\">Avoiding the &#8220;four horsemen&#8221; in relationships<\/a>. For one, I&#8217;m impressed by the entire site from Berkeley, <a href=\"https:\/\/ggia.berkeley.edu\/#\">Greater Good in Action<\/a>. Avoid criticism, contempt, defensiveness and stonewalling &#8212; there are always alternatives.<\/p>\n<p>It&#8217;s never too late to learn new things, and this for me is part of how I plan to improve in 2018; understanding people better, and hopefully moving on from an INTJ to an ENTJ (go on, get the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) &#8211; plenty of them exist online too). It is claimed that your personality type is inborn, but you can develop traits and habits that differ or contradict the description of type; so it should be possible to become an Extrovert even if naturally Introverted. Further reading: <a href=\"https:\/\/www.16personalities.com\/articles\/is-it-possible-to-change-your-personality-type\">is it possible to change your personality type?<\/a>.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>I don&#8217;t listen to every episode of the James Altucher podcast (to be fair, I don&#8217;t listen to every episode of any podcast; I skip liberally, preferring to spend quality time with audiobooks from<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_feature_clip_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":true,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2},"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false},"categories":[1],"tags":[1916,1918,1917,187,550],"class_list":["post-3410","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-general","tag-contempt","tag-mbti","tag-personality","tag-podcast","tag-relationships"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/p4vJD-T0","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack-related-posts":[],"amp_enabled":true,"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.bytebot.net\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3410","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.bytebot.net\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.bytebot.net\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.bytebot.net\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.bytebot.net\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=3410"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/www.bytebot.net\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3410\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":3412,"href":"https:\/\/www.bytebot.net\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3410\/revisions\/3412"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.bytebot.net\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=3410"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.bytebot.net\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=3410"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.bytebot.net\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=3410"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}